To all those familiar with the BDSM lifestyle ,How can one switch from being strictly dominant to submissive?
I was recently introduced to the BDSM lifestyle and am really curious as to how a switch is able to be dominant one minute or submissive the next ,how does it work ?What are the feelings that drive someone to want to do both .If they get in a relationship with either a dominant or submissive do they just play one role .Thanks
I suppose you could switch every now and then.
”Honey can i tie you up and gag you this time? My butthole is still sore.”
There is one MAIN role per person. Switching builds trust(which is key in this type of relationship), but it’s only done for a short period of time, not forever.
it can be done, but i have it really cunfuses the hell out of the person. they act dominant when its time to be submissive, and visa versa. that can really aggravate their partner.
It is a matter of what turns you on. If you are a ‘switch’, you enjoy both sides. If you do not enjoy both sides, you are not a ‘switch’ and no amount of trying will make you one. Enjoy who you are, because you don’t enjoy who you are not.
Of all the switches i know, they are very good at compartmentalizing.
They will switch from one scene to the next. It’s not so much that they switch every other minute. For the duration of a scene, or day etc they will adopt the submissive or dominant role that the scene calls for and then when it’s over they just adapt to what ever the next scene is.
If they have a single partner that they ‘scene’ with, then they usually just adopt the opposite role of their partner. Most switches tho will tend to scene with different partners or their partner will be a switch as well.
While i can be dominant if i have to… i choose to be submissive, and that has made all the difference!
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