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Recently i have seen some BDSM sessions where the is torturing her slave like hell. Don’t he (slave) feel the pain ?? or she (mistress) takes care of every thing, i mean safety measures with out doing any physichal harm to her slave.? anybodywho participated in such sessions can clarify my doubt?

I need somewhere I can ask questions about a bdsm lifestyle. I want to know what kinds of things are safe, how far you can take certain things, learn how to meet people and get involved in the community. Does anyone in the lifestyle know a place like this? Thanks!

Statistics suggest that there are around 20,000 men and women ( hetro’s and gay’s) who actively participate in BDSM bondage events and parties in Australia. Although unless you are well connected, becoming involved and knowing where to start is difficult due to a lack of openly accessible resources. Although these resources do exist, this article will point you in the right direction so you can start your new BDSM journey.

Finding a BDSM party or event in your local area is something difficult to come across. One thing for certain is that they do exist. BDSM parties here in Australia are still kept as an underground type venue as these parties are not for the faint hearted and you should educate yourself on what to expect. The main reason BDSM parties and events in Australia are kept out of easy public access is so non-experienced or un-suspecting people don’t show up.

Locating an Australian BDSM bondage party in your local area. Probably the easiest way to get started is to visit an adult shop and search for an appropriate publication. Keep an eye out for magazines with themes based on gay and lesbian, swingers and couples parties. Such magazines may not always take you directly to where you need to be however they will provide a gateway and ideas for BDSM parties and events in your local area. Many adult publications will advertise regular parties. Keep in mind that not just anyone can attend advertised parties. You will notice that different groups and organizations advertise for certain requirements such as couples, single women or perhaps their group lacks either doms or subs and will advertise for such. So becoming a regular participant of a community can take alittle time to establish.

If your looking for a more personal approach and a recommendation rather than delving into a completely unknown environment, try approaching someone who works in the industry such as an assistant at an adult shop, fetish clothing stores, leather clubs or try emailing a professional dominatrix.

The ideal place to start for new comers that are wanting a small taste of what to expect would be to firstly attend a night club or large event where there are often non-participants that are there as an introduction to BDSM . Sydney’s Hell Fire night club is renowned for hosting alternative type parties and is located in inner city Redfern. “Sleaze” (formerly Sleaze Ball) is held annually in Sydney and attracts around 10,000 party goers and sees revelers from every possible walk of life attend. It is an out door event made up of various “tents” to cater for different sexual fetishes and features loud dance music and DJs. Sleaze was originally a gay oriented event but has become more commercialized in recent years.

There are also Australian BDSM personals sites available that cater for the experienced and the inexperienced. Do some research based on the suggestions in this article to find what best suits your desires.

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To some people, the term BDSM brings to mind images of people tied up in chains, for some dark secret dungeon being whipped senseless in some type of twisted if not macabre pleasure. You know, an indulgence for those bordering of mental illness.

So, what exactly is BDSM, and what type of people practice it?

BDSM is an acronym of Bondage and Discipline (B&D), Dominance and Submission (D&S), and Sadism and Masochism aka Sadomasochism. Though there a variant definitions for the term, this one is the most widely accepted.

Let’s go a little further and briefly describe each of the sub-terms:

1. Bondage: refers to the practice of physically restraining a person, by means of devices such as handcuffs, rope, chains etc.

2. Discipline: refers to the process of punishing or being punished.

3. Sadism: refers to deriving pleasure of personal gratification from causing pain, suffering or cruelty.

4. Masochism: refers to deriving pleasure from mental, emotional or physical pain.

While the major sub-groupings of BDSM are within its own definition, it encompasses a very wide variety of practices, some being obvious and others not so obvious. They include;

1. Servitude or slavery

2. Spanking/flogging/canning/whipping

3. Suspension

4. Humiliation

5. Sadism/masochism

6. Sensory deprivation (Example, blindfolding)

7. Body piercing and tattooing

8. Movement restriction

9. Sensation-play (Example, tickling)

10. Medical procedures

BDSM involves, but is not limited to, any one or a combination of the above practices. The practice is as varied as the people involved in it. The one common denominator is eroticism.

What sort of people practice BDSM?

Contrary to the images imprinted in our minds by the media, BDSM is not necessarily hardcore sadism or pornography. BDSM activities are performed by people of all walks of life, from various backgrounds and nationalities, and all sexual orientations, including married couples. Participants are, in most cases, normal well-adjusted, even respectable people in their communities.

Is BDSM abuse?

People who practice it say they do so for fun. The emphasis is on SSC (Safe, Sane and Consensual). It is not about dominance or forcing another person to do things they don’t want to do. It is about both parties doing what they do want to do. It involves two happy parties.

BDSM can also be subtle and highly erotic, as in the case of tickling or stimulating sensitive body parts with a feather, paint brush or similar object. There may or may not be pain.

BDSM requires a great deal of trust between the parties involved. If you can’t be trusted you’ll have a hard time finding partners.

Why BDSM?

Okay, this is where it gets complicated, as we humans are complicated creatures. There are as many reasons as there are people. The most obvious is good old fun. Some people do it to fulfill their fantasies. For others it is the role-playing. For some it is simply the feeling of dominance or submission. The list is endless.

Is this just another passing trend?

The media, when not bashing it, takes BDSM rather lightly, as though a passing trend. The financial success and continued growth of companies which market bondage equipment testifies to the fact that it is much more than that.

Where do you find partners?

The internet has enabled people to find others with similar interest across the globe. They can communicate anonymously, as well as purchase the necessary tools and toys without having to look over their shoulder. Specialty websites now offer BDSM personals.

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Sexual objectification is when a person is seen as merely an object of sexual desire. Their attitudes, thoughts, beliefs, and sometimes even their feelings are voided from this interpretation. For the voyeur, the sexual object is an instrument of fantasy, of lust. Visual cues are often the catalyst for sexual objectification.

Such an intense and impassioned gaze happens on a regular basis, almost effortlessly, and is often perceived as an abominable, immoral, and sexist disease that demeans, degrades, and abuses women (mostly). But, as we continue to explore relationships between fetishism and sexual objectification, we will find that the practice of a lustful gaze is natural and necessary for any sexual encounter.

Sexual fetishes have the same resounding qualities as sexual objectification. Fetishism is the often sexualized practice and relationship between a fetishist and his/her fetish object. The fetish object describes that which is fetishized by the voyeur. A role, an act, an incident, a routine, a body part, material, places, people, taboo or controversial concepts are just some commonly known fetish-objects. I talk more about this subject in my video podcast.

Fetishism is sexual objectification on a religious level. The object is still objectified, but holds greater value to the fetishist, so much so that s/he is at the mercy of that fetish-object. A sexual object may act as an instrument of lust, but a fetish object is omnipotent and inevitable. The sexual encounter is not immediate, but rather a satisfying and enduring session of worship and sensual play.

Why do I bring these two seemingly dissimilar concepts together? Because they are not so dissimilar! As mentioned, anything and anyone can be a fetish-object. For those of you who have entered a relationship with a fetishist, you might find yourself in a predicament where you are the fetish-object. Your lover may ask if s/he can worship your feet or shoes. S/He may ask you to become a power-greedy dominant or a desperate-to-please submissive ready to serve. Simply put, your lover desires you and they want to include you in their fantasies.

We’re all sexual objects during our most intimate encounters. Would you want it on any other way? We elicit desire and lust from our lover, who (ideally) wants to dedicate their bodies to our every source of pleasure. Being a fetish-object is only different because of the unconventional element of worship and surrender. Fetish-objectification begs us to compromise more than we’re used to, which is why it’s still considered on the fringe of sexual conventions or, to some, a form of psychological disorder.

Considering that all sexual encounters (and fetish encounters) require the respect of either partner is recognized and observed, compromising your comforts for something new is usually the first step in playing with your lover and living in their fantasy (for that moment, of course). It’s natural to feel awkward or uncomfortable – imagine your first sexual experience. Similar feelings, right? Well, fetishism provides no easy transition either, especially if this is your first time experimenting with your lover.

While letting go of your natural comforts does not occur overnight, you can begin to shed some of your reservations by communicating with your partner. The fetishist, too, must compromise with a new playmate. So be sure to include some reasonable boundaries. As you continue to play, gradually remove each boundary from your list. Allow your lover to see you loving their fetish in full bloom. Also identify your own fantasies as well and bring them into your sex life.

I am a straight man with a shoe fetish. I am also happily married to a woman who is fully aware of it. I have had this fetish for as long as I can remember. I mean it is hardwired in my brain and I can’t get rid of it. I know, I have tried. I have spoken to psychologists about it, and they tell me that many people have fetishes, and that it is OK to enjoy it as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else.

Why are some people so disgusted by something like this? Why are guys with shoe or foot fetishes seen as perverted and potentially dangerous? In every major news story in the last several decades, I have never heard that the perpetrator of the crime had a shoe fetish. What is so bad about having a shoe fetish or a foot fetish? We do however give the best foot massages. Also, most men raise hell because their wife has too many shoes. Not me!

what is a fetish well i mean the true meaning can they be helped + are they normal + what type do u consider normal

What exactly is a fetish? Is it just something that turns u on or something u need 2 reach sexual satisfaction? I think I have a foot fetish cause girl’s feet really turn me on but I don’t need 2 see or touch feet or anything 2 get turned on.